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Volume 1 - 2006
What
IS Life Coaching
Today I called a woman back who had inquired
about coaching and she said: "Thanks
for calling me back so quickly. It helps
to keep the momentum going". And
what coaching REALLY is became crystal
clear!
Impulses for Change
From time to time, we get impulses for
change. It might be because we get inspired.
We might see someone else with what we
want. A new possibility might occur to
you. A flash of insight? A friend or colleague
challenges you. Most often it's because
something has gotten worse than we're
willing to tolerate, and we say: "I've
had enough!"
Whatever the reason, this impulse for
change comes along at certain intervals
in our life. However, we all know the
impulse rarely lasts. Last week I had
an impulse to exercise (again). However,
it's not particularly consistent, and
doesn't always come at times when it's
convenient for me to exercise.
You may have thought: "You know
- my relationship really could be better.
Surely this isn't as good as it gets?"
And the next day the impulse is gone.
Or "What would it take to double
my profits? I'm really going to make some
changes in this business when I get less
busy". A few days later your focus
is on something else.
OR, are you the kind of person who takes
on new projects with gusto, to find out
that a few weeks or months later it feels
old hat, and you follow a familiar pattern
of switching to something else?
So IMPULSES FOR CHANGE DO NOT LAST. This
is why we human beings do not make so
many of the changes that are possible
in our lives.
Without coaching - without a STRUCTURE
- our natural tendency is to keep our
patterns. Go to work. Make money. Keep
the same relationships. Keep the same
barriers. Want the same things to change.
But don't change them. Feel an impulse
for change - lose the impulse for change.
Staying the same is the natural outcome.
But Do We Need to Change?
No. But wouldn't it be wise? These impulses
for change are the signals telling you
what is next for you in life. They are
your intuition letting you know that you
are missing opportunities. They are messages
(sometimes subtle) about what you would
really like to do in your life, what your
business needs, the perfect job, who you
should be with right now.
If I may get a little deep for just a
moment - they are not only the signals
that will help us achieve the goals we
are striving for, but the signals that
are telling us how to evolve as people.
If we ignore these impulses, we'll feel
restless at a very deep level - knowing
something is wrong, but not sure what.
Not understanding this restlessness, we
must seek ways to quiet en it - TV, movies,
alcohol, smoking, over-reading etc.
OK - I'm getting a little off track but
I think you get my point. It's important
that these impulses do not get left by
the way side. You want the secret to achieving
your goals and having an amazing life?
FIND A WAY TO HARNESS THESE IMPULSES.
The Coaching Structure
At it's simplest, coaching may be described
as a structure. Coaching harnesses the
energy for change; those impulses that
last from a moment to a few weeks. If
you feel an impulse to exercise more you
may exercise once - until the next impulse.
But if you join a gym for a year and hire
a personal trainer, you will be fit! In
fact it would be very hard to avoid it
having set up this structure.
Coaching is a similar structure, for
any goal that's important to you. You
make a commitment to your goals, and to
working for a certain time frame with
a coach. This is often 3 months or 6 months,
usually with one or more review points
to assess progress. Normally once a week
you have a conversation with your coach,
and you commit to specific actions to
move you forward.
Within a coaching structure, your natural
tendency is to pursue your goals and achieve
them. It's hard, in fact very hard to
keep your patterns and your life the same
when you focus so much consistent attention
on what you really want, and make promises
to a third party.
With a coach, the man who feels an impulse
to change careers isn't still thinking
about it in three months time. He's hired
a coach, he's found a new career possibility
which inspires him, he's got a new resume
and ten interviews lined up.
With a coach, the woman who wants to
organize her business so that she has
time for herself isn't still complaining
about it in six months time. She's hired
a coach, created an empowering time allocation,
set her boundaries, hired an assistant,
looks obviously happier and is therefore
attracting more clients.
So here's the key: Without a coach, the
path of least resistance is to keep your
life the same. Impulses for change often
do not last long enough to act upon.
With a coach, the path of least resistance
is to achieve your goals! Impulses for
change are converted to momentum.
Summary
So would coaching be a smart investment
for you right now? Are you the kind of
person who could benefit?
You decide. I say it's for people who
recognize that coaching is a powerful
structure for harnessing your energy for
change, and to help you move forward.
If you're content for the next five years
to be similar to the last five years,
then you don't need any input or help
from anyone. However, aren't you curious
to know what your life could be like in
five years time if you harnessed your
impulses for change, carried them through,
and had fun while doing it?
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What
Is Personal Freedom?
 Virtually
every person who engages a Coach wants
more, sometimes much more, and knows that
they must make certain changes in their
personal and profession lives in order
to get more of what they really want.
These changes take time, coaching and
effort. The Personal Freedom program
helps you focus on the process of strengthening
your life as a way to accelerate and attract
your goals and desires. It is a
process that involved deliberately investing
in one’s Self.
How?
By engaging in conversation and putting
into place the following pillars of your
personal foundation.
- Extend
your personal boundaries.
Examine the limits or invisible lines
you place around yourself for
protection.
- Know and share
your requirements. Let
the people around you know what you
expect from them.
- Raise your standards.
Select standards that are good for
you right now.
- Finish what is
unfinished. Strive
to finish all unfinished matters in
order to have more personal energy
available to clear the way for a better
future.
- Get your personal
needs met. When you take
the responsibility for your needs
you are more likely to get them met,
allowing you to be fully with other
people and ideas.
- Know your values.
Reestablish what is it
that you are naturally inclined toward,
drawn to, or eager to do.
- Build reserves
in all areas. Having
strong reserves in opportunities,
energy and time eliminates drains
in your life.
- Minimize toleration's.Don’t
just put up with something. Decide
on something.
- Handle your money
completely. Take the
necessary steps to set yourself up
for financial success.
- Define success
on your terms. Determine benchmarks
and accomplishments that make sense.
This is not a small order—but then again,
neither is your life! In order to
create the life and experiences you desire,
it is essential to have a strong foundation.
This Program
is not easy. In fact, it is challenging,
so much so, that you are wise to arrange
for a support structure to help you complete
and program and work on the pillars.
As a coach that is certified in the Personal
Freedom Program I can help you. Invite
others to do this Program with you.
There is encouragement in groups.
| General
fee is $200. Class times will be
arranged according to participants
schedules. If you are interested
in more information contact Stacy
Lewis at 206-948-4026.
A special offer to workshop participants during
or after an eight week session:For
an additional $150 you will receive
support on integrating this material
into your daily life with scheduled
telephone coaching sessions for
approximately 30 minutes once per
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You Are Worth It
Do
not undermine your worth by comparing
yourself with others, It is because we
are different that each of us is special.
Do
not set your goals by what other people
deem important. Only you know what is
best for you.
Do
not take for granted the things closest
to your heart,
For without them, life is meaningless.
Do
not let your life slip through your fingers
by living in the past nor for the future.
By living one day at a time, you live
all the days of your life.
Do
not be afraid to encounter risks. It is
by taking chances that we learn how to
be brave.
Do
not shut love out of your life by saying
it is impossible to find. The quickest
way to receive love is to give love;
The fastest way to lose love is to hold
it too tightly.
Do
not dismiss your dreams. To be without
dreams is to be without hope; To be without
hope is to be without purpose.
Do
not run through life so fast that you
forget not only where you have been, but
also where you are going. Life is not
a race, but rather a path to be walked,
savoring every step along the way.
Ten
Commandments To Live By
- You shall not worry, for worry is
the most unproductive of all human
activities.
- You shall not be fearful, for most
of the things we fear never come to
pass.
- You shall not carry grudges, for
they are the heaviest of all of life’s
burdens.
- You shall face each problem as it
comes, viewing it as an opportunity
to expand your problems solving skills.
- You shall not take problems to bed
with you, for they make very poor
bedfellows.
- You shall not borrow other people’s
problems. They are the ones intended
to solve their problems and integrate
the lessons they learn for themselves.
- You shall not try to relive yesterday
for good or ill, it is forever gone.
Concentrate on what is happening in
your life and be happy now! Anxiety
is caused by trying to retrieve the
irretrievable.
- You shall be a good listener, for
only when you listen do you hear ideas
different from you own.
- You shall not become bogged down
by frustration, for 90% of it is rooted
in self-pity and will only interfere
with positive action.
- You shall count your blessing, never
overlooking the small ones, for a
lot of small blessing add up to a
big one.
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