Define Success on Your Terms

What does it mean to be successful? What is the truth about success for you? Why is it beneficial for success to be defined?

Given the number of influences, past and present, that we are subjected to it is very helpful to know what is important so you. Don’t get seduced or distracted by the demands of others, your job, advertising or other sources which might define what is important for you if you haven’t taken the opportunity to define it for yourself first. Until you take time to define success for yourself, it will most likely be defined by others, your environment, your past and advertising.

People who define success on their terms:

• know within seconds whether an opportunity is right for them
• stay true to their goals,
• are focused on internal benchmarks for success, not external measures,
• know what matters to them and live in integrity,
• have control and direction over their life.

The benefits of defining success are:

• When you have set your definition of success you are not swayed by the emotions of or evaluation by, others. You know your standards. By knowing your standards you gain a sense of purpose, peace and ease.
• When success is clearly defined you are not distracted by ideas that won’t help you reach your goals. It moves you forward with direction.
• If you don’t define what is most important t you, then other sources will tend to do it for you.

  The 3 Steps to Defining Success For Yourself

1. Step 1 - I know I am being successful by…(fill in the blank)

It is important that you use the exact sentence structure above. This sets you up to articulate clearly how you not only define success but you know when you are being successful.

2. Step 2 - Tweak your response until it resonates with you.

You will know that a success definition is phrased well when it resonates within you. If it does not create a strong feeling yet, don’t worry. It may take a couple days of tinkering with your success definition before it zings. Your success definition needs be exciting and inspiring! You may find yourself thinking about success as you are redefining it. If you become truly stuck and just can’t find resonation definitions, then simply start over and pick a new one. Sometimes people can confuse what they should or could want for their success definitions with what they really, really want.

3. Step 3 – Notice the tugs you feel.

As you feel your success definitions resonating over the coming weeks, notice the way it tugs at you to make small, or perhaps significant, changes in your life. You will catch yourself fairly quickly when you feel pulled away from your definitions. You will find it easier to say no to people or situations that don’t fit with what is important to you. It is up to you if you want to make these changes right now, but a least you will know what your body and heart are suggesting.

Examples

Here are some Strong (S) and Weak (W) examples of definition of success. What makes an example strong is that it resonates a passion within you instead of just describing something important to you. Give the phrasing a twist until is zings for you.

S: I know I am being successful by how much I am enjoying my creativity each day.
W: I know I am being by how creative I am.

S: I know I am being successful when I can wake up every morning of every day and decide, “What will I do today?”
W: I know I am being successful when I can choose my activities every day.

S: I know I am being successful when money is not a factor in any of my decisions.
W: I know I am being successful when I am rich.

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So even if you are familiar with the technique of shaping your thoughts and feelings to shape your life, this film/book holds additional value in serving as both reinforcement and reminder.

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What Is Equine Centered Coaching?

Equine Centered Coaching encourages growth and learning geared towards developing one’s self knowledge.

Horses let us know how we are presenting ourselves in terms of emotions, energy fields and body movements. With horses, you can experience more consciously nonverbal communication. They invite you to clarify your vision and show you how to create joy in your life.

As prey animals, horses are extremely aware. They communicate through their senses. Nature provides them with instincts and senses that are very astute. This astute sensitivity of the horse acts as a mirror for the humans around them. Through your interactions, you are able to assess your strengths and weaknesses. How you relate to the horse can act as your guide in growth, learning and self development.

Horses show us when we are authentically being ourselves. Working with horses enables people to quickly discover insight and take immediate action in creating a desired change.

• Through guided exercises with the horse on the ground you learn to identify what is true for you.
• You learn to fully commit yourself to achieving clarity and focus in the moment.
• You develop the ability to stay focused on goals.
• The horse’s reactions help you achieve the clarity and focus allowing you to move forward with confidence and ease.
• You learn how to listen and respect your intuition and impressions.
• Partnership, encouragement, accountability, listening, and a different perspective are provided to you.
• We talk about how this relates to other areas in your life including your desired goals, feelings, environments, and outcomes.

Most of the activities are done on the ground making equine assisted coaching available to people who have never had any experience with horses.

My customized experiential solution-based programs acknowledges your power of choice which brings transformational change. You gain clarity about the direction of your life and better understanding of your gifts and strengths.

A Piece of Serenity Massage therapy for total relaxation

Getting a massage can do you a world of good. And getting massage frequently can do even more. This is the beauty of bodywork. Taking part in this form of regularly scheduled self-care can play a huge part in how healthy you'll be and how youthful you'll remain with each passing year. Budgeting time and money for bodywork at consistent intervals is truly an investment in your health. And remember: just because massage feels like a pampering treat doesn't mean it is any less therapeutic. Consider massage appointments a necessary piece of your health and wellness plan, and work with your practitioner to establish a treatment schedule that best meets your needs. ~ from massagetherapy.com

Jenny Farnam, LMP

Breathe...

And carve out a piece of serenity in your day to make a difference in your life.

We live in a busy world. Don’t forget to take care of yourself along the way.

Go to A Piece of Serenity or contact Jenny at jenny@apieceofserenity.com or 206-617-1535

""Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else's opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation."
—George Bernard Shaw

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Seattle, WA 98155
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